Apply the “F.A.” to Get Anybody to do Whatever you Want Anytime, Every Time?
Previously, I brought up “the Pickup Artist loophole” and briefly acquainted you to the FA, Friendly Assertiveness. Now I will elaborate on it so you can have mind-control power to get almost anybody to do whatever you ask in a friendly way, by acting friendly assertive I like to call it, instead of dominantly aggressive.
Example:
If a stranger were to tell you…
A.) in a dominantly aggressive manner “Give me that water!”
or
B.) “Could you give me that water please?” in a friendly yet assertive manner
(Or heck even “Could you please go across the room to get me a water?”)
…which one are you more likely to comply to if you had to decide?
More likely Choice B because you didn’t feel forced as in Choice A; besides it’s awkward to be disrespectful to somebody who is friendly or else you would be perceived as an @$$hole and everybody around you would return you the same rudeness as well and withdraw from you, while in choice A you would have behaved back negatively to their condescension and that would have been ok by them being dominantly aggressive and pushy to you.
You can’t go wrong being friendly. For this example in them being friendly, they eventually get what they want, which is the water.
Here’s another example from my life:
When I was working behind the bar, and there were 2 bartenders I had to interact with.
One of the bartenders had this self-righteous mannerism that he could just think that he could get me to do whatever he wanted,
“Bring me the bottle over there!”
I didn’t care if he had been a bartender rockstar in Europe for over a decade and he was the best, I was always like,”Who the hell do you think you are?”
The other bartender was friendly assertive, being a dominant force indirectly I like to describe it,
“Hey how about you bring me the bottle?”
The second bartender requested something from me but at the same time still made me feel like they were relyin on me, so I was more willing to honor the request. The second bartender could even request me to throw out the trash all the way down to the basement dumpster and then squeeze a case of lime juice, and I still showed more compliance than the first bartender, even though it required more work.
Insane, isn’t it?
You can call these aggressive behaviors, however, natural human behaviors do hate to be forced to do something, especially feel taken advantage of.
To summarize, control the desired outcome by making them think and feel they are in control…similar to a king-and-peasant relationship, which the irony is, you’re the peasant asking the other person, this mighty respected king, for a request. If they can’t deliver it, they will disappoint as your mighty high-regard king, and somebody with that title, won’t want to let you down.
If you look at great natural leaders have this attribute of calm friendly assertiveness that effortlessly lead people without having to try yet at the same time make them feel like they’re their own leader, not thecontinous need to remind everbody they need to do what you ask by asserting an overbearing dominance like a dictator…as I said before nobody like to be told what to do and taken advantage of.
And combine that with being friendly assertive and giving value to them.
When you show friendly assertiveness in conjunction with contributing value to others to what they lack, making them feel important, people will magnetically come into your life and want to follow you to end of the world, and you really don’t have to do anything.
Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your “social skills” to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women…but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.
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