Relationship Advice – Why Relationship Forums Can Help You Out
There are many different people out there willing to give you relationship advice. The problem is that most people have different opinions on what relationships should be like, how to fix relationship issues, and how much crap you should put up with in a relationship.
Not only does their relationship advice differ, but the way you take the advice differs from the next person who gets it. Why? Because you take what you need and then apply it to your situation through your own unique perspective.
Someone may tell you that biting your partners nails is bad but if your parents did that then you may consider it to be a part of a normal relationship – and it may take some more convincing than just hearing that it’s bad for the relationship.
This is why relationship forums are good when it comes to relationship advice. Sure you may get some really bad advice there but you will also get a diversity of relationship advice that can help you come to a better answer for your unique self.
When you read a relationship book you get the advice of the author. Granted the author should have some useful knowledge when it comes to relationships. I mean they did write a book on it. But you only get their viewpoint of how a relationship should work.
- When you ask your friend you get your friends perspective on relationships.
- When you ask your mother you get her perspective on relationships.
- When you ask a stranger you get their perspective on relationships.
And there is a good chance that all those perspectives will differ. That’s not any different then a relationship forum. You get lots of unique advice that can help you come to a happy answer for yourself. But relationship forums are different in one really good way.
When relationship advice comes from someone you know or face to face, the givers opinion will also be formed around you and your feelings. Meaning they may not want to hurt your feelings so they give a kinder viewpoint on how they feel about your question.
A relationship forum can help you get tons of different opinions in a small amount of time, and you get honest and straightforward answers without the sugar-coating to spare your feelings, because these people don’t care how they make you feel!
This is not a bad thing!
For criticism or advice to be constructive it has to be honest. If your best friend or mother is giving you softened relationship advice then it is not honest advice and in the end that is going to do you no good.
For instance, if your partner tells you that you are too opinionated then you may ask your best friend if they think you are too opinionated. Not wanting to hurt your feelings or make you mad at them they may say something like “No! You are self-sufficient and strong-willed. Not that it is a bad thing!” Of course that answer is just going to make you feel like you have a right to be opinionated and not help your relationship out at all.
But if you ask the same question on a forum you will get varied and honest answers about how they really feel about opinionated people. If you share WHY your partner thinks you are opinionated then they will most likely tell you the truth about your words and your actions. Then you will be able to become aware of your issues and start working on them.
So if you are looking for honest answers that will help you fix your relationship problems why not try a relationship forum? Make sure you ask your question with as much details as possible. Don’t hold back! You don’t know them so who cares. Your mission should be to fix your relationship not to worry about what people think about you.
Bellaisa is the owner of the Relationship Circle. Her website gives out relationship advice for men and women on dating, intimacy, and relationship issues.
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