Are You Addicted to Sex?
Addiction to sex is usually caused by an abuse of the natural sex drive of a person. It usually starts in puberty, when the feeling arising from sex is somewhat new. However, it does not mean that it will not develop a bit later in life because it can be possible. Once it has started, it can lead to more and more sexual urges of the person addicted to sex, that it is not normal anymore. The sexually addicted person will try to fight the urges, but usually succumbs to it afterwards. As the addiction progresses, it can and will affect every part of the person addicted to it. What his or her priorities before being addicted to sex will then take the back seat. What’s worse is that they will be completely forgotten.
There are many misconceptions about this type of addiction. Like in the cinemas or on television, sex addicts are portrayed as having fun all the time since they are addicted to sex. But in the real world, such compulsive behaviour is a really an intimate problem. The sex addict uses sex to escape his or her problems just as a drug addict uses drugs or an alcoholic drinking too much. And just like any other addictive behaviour, addiction to sex does deliver what the addict is looking for, but only for a short while. It is then followed by a life of regret, misery and pain. Since the shallow pleasure does not last long, the sex addict is then confronted with his or her real life again. When he or she doesn’t want to face real life, he or she looks for sex again.
Getting help to stop the addiction is the most important decision an addict can ever make in his or her entire life. The person addicted to sex may think that there is no way out. He or she fears that he or she will forever be a slave of the addiction. The reason behind this thinking is that they may have tried to stop the addiction once or twice but they failed. This thinking that they will never succeed is the biggest hindrance in their road to getting well. However, if the sexually addicted person really wants to get well, and he really works hard to get well, nothing is impossible. Another thing that will greatly help overcome addiction to sex is good counselling. A good counselling will give a sex addict helpful insights on getting better. It will also help in motivating the person to have the free will to stop but of course it should be coupled with a firm resolve to seek recovery and to get well completely.