Getting Married Via Online Dating
My friend Sharon and I were two of the only girls left in our circle of friends who were single. So one night, after going out to see a movie, we got into a conversation about online dating. Both of us were skeptical about it, but we agreed that we would try it together. We did a little research and agreed on a website to try; then we each started our own profile. The whole process on this website began by having us do a personality test. The goal was for us to be matched with people who would have similar morals and interests. After completing the test, we were able to instantly see matches in our area. Sharon initially had twelve matches, and I had fourteen.
Once we perused our matches, the next step was to decide which ones we would like to communicate with further. Sharon quickly narrowed her choices down to three. I stuck with five; I figured the more, the merrier. The communication process included exchanging some multiple-choice questions with one another. Then if we liked what we saw, the next step was to exchange some short answer questions. Finally, if the guy passed these steps, it moved into an open communication stage. Out of Sharon’s three initial choices, only two of them went into open communication. And out of my five, three went to this final step. After about two weeks of this online dating process, we both had our first dates.
Sharon went to dinner with one of her matches on a Friday night. I was having lunch with one of my matches on the following Saturday. We both agreed that our first dates were flops. When Sharon got home that night, she called me and said she would, “never see him again”. Boy wasn’t I surprised when a few days later she told me she had agreed to go out with him again?! It turns out, he had been really nervous and had not been himself at their first dinner. He kept calling her, though, and his persistence eventually wore her down – in a good way.
The guy’s name was Timothy. He was new to our area and had decided to try online dating as a way to meet new people. Well, their second dinner turned into a third and so on and so forth. Before too long, things had gotten serious between them. At first I felt like it was happening a bit too fast, but when you saw them together it was obvious they were meant to be. After dating for only six months, they got engaged.
That was about five months ago, and this coming weekend is their wedding. I didn’t find success as quickly as Sharon, but I’m still hopeful. In fact, I’m taking a recent match of mine to the wedding as my date. Who knows? Maybe this time next year it will be my turn to walk down the aisle!
Mary-Ellen Catalano is a contributor to several fashion, family and lifestyle web sites. Among the topics she writes about are Boston online dating and dating sites for professionals.
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