Old Love Memories: How to Overcome The Pain
Sometimes the most painful thing in a relationship is not the break-up itself rather, what hurts the most is forgetting the memories you have with him. The truth is that you find it difficult to accept he is not coming back and the promises you both once made and was so real a moment ago are now but a distant illusion.
It is the memories of the time you spent together that is the most difficult to forget and set aside. Sometimes, those memories will consume you to the point that you are living in a world full of denial. But, you know what, no matter how much you cried and no matter how long you are going to be miserable, the truth is, he does not care about you and the love you thought you both have. Yes, it is one sided. It hurts, yes it does.
You might say that you cannot go on living without him and that it is easier said than done. However, if you truly want to break away from all the pain you are suffering now? You can! The only one who can control your mind and your emotions is yourself!
Those memories you hold so dear might have mean something before but that moment had gone, things have changed. More importantly the meaning given to that moment has changed as well. The secret is to isolate that moment. Just leave it on its own. Do not give a meaning to it; All the bad and the good memories will be there, but if you do not give them meaning of what it was like back then, then it could not affect you in any other way.
The only thing that keeps the pain imminent either as a result of your ‘what was NEVER going to be’ and ‘what CANNOT BE’ thoughts. By not connecting these memories to their false meaning, suffering would be lessened and you will find it easy to focus on today and what you have right now.
So how do you not think about the past?
Let go.
Every time your old memory kicks in, say something like “thank you for sharing this moment and now I let this thought go” or you can say “This thought does not serve me, I must think of the present and what it is giving me.”
As your thoughts lead to meanings and meanings lead to your emotions – without having your thoughts connected to their once fanciful meanings, you can concentrate on the present and release the ABCs of negativity.
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