What Risks Are Involved With Dating?
Knowing the situation you are walking into is always a good idea, it makes it easier to deal with any problems that life may throw you. This is especially true if you have just undergone a lot of emotional stress, a divorce for example.
Going through a divorce is stressful enough , then when you have recovered enough to start dating again there are new potential risks to be aware of. Your mind has a lot of power over your actions , don’t let the bitterness from your divorce ruin your chances of successful dating and enjoying those dates.
Leaving any marriage causes stress to all parties concerned. It can be hard to leave that stress behind but you will need to if you are going to have any success on the dating scene.
Unfortunately, one area where your emotional vulnerability can present a serious problem is that there are always those who are willing to take advantage of it. For some, it is as if they can sense such vulnerability, and have no reservations about exploiting it for their own ends. This in itself is a good enough reason to begin your dating with people you already know, or those who are known to your friends or family.
One additional, and very important, means of safeguarding yourself from being exploited is to keep the focus of casual dating on the word ‘casual;’ you are keeping your best interests in mind if your social life does not include filling your dates in on details about your marriage, former spouse, or other personal information.
Sometimes your casual date will try and pry information of a more personal nature, sometimes it may be a genuinely caring behavior but usually it is just a form of nosiness. There are also some people who enjoy hearing about other peoples misery, be careful of these people as they will sometimes try and create drama in their lives and if you are dating them that means your life as well.
If you have been out of the dating arena a long time and are unsure as to what is appropriate, it is wise to stick to such topics as what you like to do in your free time, what type of work you do, and similar basics pertaining to your everyday life; how you get along with your children or your parents, what your previous relationships were like, how much money you make, etc., are not in the range of appropriate conversation material with your dates.
It is easy to slip into the trap of pouring out your problems to your date, especially if they are a person who shows empathy for you and they may have been through a similar situation themselves so they appear to understand what you have been through. While it is understandable, it is not productive to keep on going over old problems with someone who you have just met.
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