Relationship Advice: How To Talk To Someone Meddling in Your Relationship
Relationships can be hard enough without your sister or best friend trying to ‘improve your relationship’ or, worse, attempting to do away with your relationship! It’s not fun to have someone meddling in your relationship consistently.
I personally experienced a friend who would routinely meddle in my brand new relationship (now my husband). She would tell me what he really likes and how he really thought and she would tell me that getting to involved with him may not be a good idea.
Oh, I know what you might be thinking…’Well, she had your best interest at heart!’, but that was not the case at all!
I regularly felt as though there was an underlying reason to her meddling. And it turns out, as I later found out, she liked my boyfriend and didn’t want us to be together.
She didn’t have my best interest at heart and we have not been friends for a long time.
It will probably not always be someone trying to steal your man or woman though. There are going to be people who actually presume that they are making your relationship better. This is when you need to step in and tell them a few important things that they need to understand.
Remember, if you are in an abusive relationship or a really miserable relationship than your buddy, family member or whoever is probably attempting to help you be happy; or if you are heading for heartache in some way than that is another good reason to listen to what they are attempting to say.
That said, if they are being nosy and opinionated then you have every right to want them to butt out.
Here are 3 things to say to that meddling individual.
1. YOU Are Not a Part of This Relationship!
An sexual relationship has many layers to it. Most of us reserve a exclusive side of our lives for our intimate relationship that we don’t share with other people.
There are intimate moments of conversations and intimacy that results in a tight bond between two people that is critical for a successful.
The person who is meddling does not share those moments you have had. And more importantly, they are not sharing the emotions and encounters you are having in the relationship.
They have no right to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do in your relationship simply because they are not experiencing your whole relationship!
2. YOU Are Not Me!
Often a prying individual will state “If I were to do it then I would do it this way!” Needless to say, they probably WOULD do it that way; because they are doing things they way they do things! But they are not you. And YOU have a totally different way of going about things.
Not only do you have a different way of looking at things, but you also have a different way of viewing things and you have unique morals, patterns, and objectives in life and in your relationship than they would. This makes the way you go about handling situations different from them – and they have to understand that.
3. I’m Happy with My Relationship
Sometimes you you can’t win and you just have to shine the happy viewpoint of your relationship.
As much as you would like to share the negative moments or discuss relationship problems with them, they may not be able to deal with hearing that kind of information without meddling in your relationship.
It’s not being fake, it’s not being dishonest, it’s just letting the prying person see a part of your relationship that they can cope with without infusing their ideas.
If they are always seeing happiness and joy then there will be no reason to get involved.
Get rid of meddlers by making use of the above 3 tips. Your relationship will thank you!
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